POWER! Who has most of yours?  What situation, person, place or thing are you focusing your power on?

Every day, every moment we are thinking about power. This most often is represented as “worth” or “worthiness” in our thoughts and subconscious mind. Things of more worth, tend to have more power and things that are worth-less have less power (in our mind).

Understanding what we see has powerful, has big implications on our happiness for we are also included in this equation. We can only discern power in relation to us and our interpretation of our own worth. In relationships of all kinds we are deciding how much power we have as relative to others. How much power we are taking and how much power we are giving away.

 Understanding your own power can help make you a powerful happy individual.

“Choice only exists in a time space continuum where we have the perception of separateness and choice, therefore is the creative expression of the-one.”

  – Dr. Lewis Jordan

“What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve” – Napoleon Hill

 “A manifested choice is always determined.” – Dr. Lewis Jordan

Questions: 

1.  If someone is born mentally retarded or with cerebral palsy, is that his or her choice?

 2.  If someone is raped at age 3 is that their choice?

 3.  If someone smokes 3 packs of cigarettes a day and gets lung cancer at age       50 is that their choice

 4.  If somebody lies to you about not having HIV and then you get HIV from them, was that your choice?

• When did something happen in your life that you did not choose?   

 • Have you even been angry with someone?

What feels better to you?:

A.  That you choose something

B.  God chooses something for you

C.  Karma form a past life chooses it for you

D.  Luck or fate chooses it for you

• Who IS making the choice? Are you simply an observer?  Or, are you the observed and the observer? (Quantum physics) 

 • Think about a time that you could not see past a choice that you didn’t understand and NOW, you are able to understand that an individual or thing, made that choice. 

What does someone who loves themselves unconditionally, deserve? The answer is, Everything! The perception of lack comes from the idea that you are not good enough and therefore, it manifests in your life with negative feelings & consequences. The wonderful thing about defining yourself is that you have the power to be whatever you believe yourself to be. Learning the steps to taking the responsibility for this [and implementing them] can change your life!

You make the rules.  You create the beliefs. Then, you reward or punish yourself based on your perception of who you are. Learning to love yourself is easy and it starts with one first step; A willingness to change. You can learn to unconditionally love yourself for who you and others, for who they are. This process is going to be outlined in this week’s group and can be a major shift in transforming your life.

Your core belief system is the foundation for success and happiness. Any belief that does not work for you will show up in your life as a negative experience.

 You are the architect of your beliefs, what have you constructed for yourself?

 “As a man believes so is he” Proverbs 23:7

 “If you have faith as small as a mustard seed and say move,

that mountain shall surely move.” Matthew 21:21

 Some core beliefs that might work for you:

•   I easily adapt to the new. I change and move with what works with ease.Do you resist or adapt to change? Having a fixed personality style leads you to live safe. But do you sacrifice happiness in the process? You survive, but do you thrive?
• I have a purpose for life that brings me forward in happiness. Individualize this to fit who you believe yourself to be. For example, mine is – I am connected to life, both the observing (Individual) the (one) connected to and part of all, everything. I have a higher purpose as an individual to hope, dream, create, invent and learn as to understand, experience and connect with every (one).
• I control what to belief about me and my beliefs support my happiness. No one, not your parents, your government your friends, family or God himself can make you believe anything you don’t want to. You invent Rules about wrong and right and if they don’t work for you, change them to ones that DO WORK.
• I treat myself in loving unconditional ways. You know your needs better than anyone else. Be loving and gentle with your thoughts to yourself and it flows easily onto others.
• I take charge of my own destiny. I am in the driver’s seat of my life. The more responsibility you take for your life the more you have the control to direct it in ways you wish. Don’t give your power away to others.
• I have faith and understand and know how to use it to get what I desire. I trust in the process of life, knowing that I can use my faith to succeed and achieve. Faith gets you through rough times and helps you persevere.
• Change is an inevitable part of life. I value change for its own sake, I know that success is only possible if I embrace new ideas and new ways of doing things.
• I am open to letting go of things that don’t work, for things that do work. Letting go of things you no longer need, thoughts that no longer serve you is important to living in the now, not the past. In the now you can change, in the past you are stuck.
• I deserve to be truly happy. Remember, if you can think of someone who does not deserve to be happy, than they are defined by their behaviors and therefore you are too.  Your ability to believe in your own right to happiness is diminished when you are your behaviors because they are never going to be good enough for you, all the time. Deserving to be happy starts with loving yourself and others unconditionally.
• I am already perfect just as I am. You are not your behaviors and not your body. You were born perfect, needing not to have to do or be anything to deserve love. What does a baby need to-do to be loved? What does a person need to do to be loved? Who decides who is perfect and by what measure? Each individual.

Beliefs that do not support happiness
Have you ever wondered if, “What I believe to be true about myself works for me or limits my joy and happiness?”  Think about the following common beliefs that undermine happiness.

1. What others think about me determines my worth.

Some people define themselves based on how others define them. Interesting though, you are still the decision maker on how to define yourself.  You’re just deciding to give that power to someone else. However, what others think about you is often a reflection of what they think about themselves and therefore it’s not really about you. When you give your power over to others to define you, you will never be good-enough.

2. What happened to me long ago determines who I am today, and in the future.

Defining yourself by past behaviors or experiences keeps you stuck in the past. Remember, you feel your best when you are in the present moment. Laughter, Contentment all take place in the now. When you are your past you can never change it, it has already happened.  So, you again loose power but now not to a person but to a past event that has ended. When you define yourself by your past you are not in the present and you waste the gift of your current experience. Let go of the past and move into the present.

3. My decisions are controlled by a deity or something supernatural.

Some people believe that their status in life–or even there potential as a human being–is determined by luck, fate, divine intervention, spirit guides, past lives, psychics, etc.  This all-too-common belief robs such people of power and gives it up to something else. When you don’t have control of a situation, why bother to make a change. If the choice has already been made for you, then that gives you the relief from the fear of making a mistake.  But then, you have no power to control your own life – you have no choice.

4. I am ruled by my emotions and they indicate, by themselves, the reality.

Some people believe that their emotions are caused by external events and so they are also the cause of events. Although emotions are determined by how you perceive an event, combined with your beliefs you have already have formed about what those events mean, some people find it difficult to “get out of their own heads” and make there own choice. This is a way of avoiding choice and letting your emotions choose for you. Emotions are a guide, but not the determining factor of what to choose. When we take the responsibility to be emotionally reflective we are making the choice, not letting the emotion [itself] make the choice.

5. I am trying to be perfect or do something perfectly. 

Because perfection is unattainable and is an illusion behaviorally, the people who seek it are simply setting themselves up for disappointment and making themselves wrong as a successful perfectionist does-not-exist. Perfectionists give their power over to their behaviors and the world and therefore are victims to an unattainable goal.

When thinking about your beliefs, ask yourself if they work for you, how they make you feel. Do they enrich your life, do they support a good-feeling-state. If not, change them! You made them up to begin with. Take responsibility for your beliefs and accept that when it comes to beliefs, you are your own god.

Dr. Lewis James Jordan PhD © 2012  www.LewisJamesJordan.com

SAFTEY VS. DESERVABILITY – A BIG ISSUES IN LIFE
We make up rules and beliefs for our lives based on the need to be safe & based our core belief of WHO we think we are.

BUT WHO ARE YOU, REALLY?

YOUR EGO IS INTERPRETING YOUR EXPEREINCES. ( MYSELF )
YOU ARE THE ONE HAVING THEM. ( I )

When you get confused & think that you are your interpretations of your experiences, [your behaviors] you may start to feel emotional pain. i.e. depression, anxiety. The Experiences you have are real, your interpretations are not – They are based on what you believe to be true about yourself.
This is where the real work begins: TRUST, FAITH, BELIEVE. When you Believe something, you are determining it to be. You are saying, “Nothing but this is going to happen.” Faith can move mountains.

1. First you must believe in your deservability.
• This is continuously undermined when we think we are our behaviors.

2. We must trust the ( I ). Trust that you, the one who is experiencing, is leading yourself to your greatest joy [if you just let it].

3. Trust and be open to change, don’t resist.

4. Don’t worry about knowing the path or the answers – go with what feels good!

5. Stay in balance. When you ask for something that you are not, you are saying, ‘I’m undeserving.’ When you ask for something that you are, and except something less, you are saying, ‘I’m not good enough.’

REMEMBER YOUR RESPONSIBLY FOR DETERMINING YOUR VALUE IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS. WHAT ARE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS TELLING YOU YOUR WORTH?

Anger comes from our perception that something was done TO us. What we do not understand sometimes is that people are not intentionally doing things TO us. Our perception of what is happening to us is merely a reflection of what we think and feel about ourselves. People get angry and become victims because they think that people are doing things TO them and that thing is making them ‘bad wrong or not good enough’. No one can make you feel this way unless you give someone or something the power to do so.  I heard something the other day that I liked, “I can only let someone make me feel angry if I give them my permission to do so.”  

Our responsibility is in the situation: Many times we are enrolled in wanting or needing to be a victim whether we see it or not. Learning to let go of our anger and victimizations can transform our lives to where we define ourselves not thru judgment, but happiness and love.

anxiety have the power in every moment to choose the feeling we wish.

Some foundational beliefs that may help give you POWER!

 Everything we understand to be right and wrong, good or bad, is made up.

Everything you think (cognitions) is thought by only you.

Everything you emotionally feel is a response to your thoughts and your beliefs.

We are the creator of these things, and the more we take responsibility the more we can direct our lives in the direction we wish it to go.